or at least making the best attempt at it. While watching Rachel Ray this morning, since my kids had yet another snow day, I was comforted by a guest she had on her show. A new mom who acknowledged how hard it is to be a mom and still work. She expressed how it was much harder than she expected. It was comforting to hear the acknowledgment.
A few weeks ago, a neighborhood mom said, "I don't know how you do it." That got me thinking. Yes, I have 3 kids, I work full-time, I volunteered to be the VP on the PTA, I teach RE at our church, and I just recently went back to grad school. But, honestly I LOVE IT ALL! I love my family, enjoy my job and like to help out where I can. Whether it's for my family, my job, my school, whatever has to get done, usually gets done.
It's the when something gets missed or forgotten part that I have a hard time with. It is usually followed by deep regret. For example, I had the wrong time for my son's basketball game a few weeks ago and he missed it. I felt terrible. I know it was just a game but how could I mess up the time. There are so many things I juggle, it is not surprising that mistakes happen but the guilt I put on myself is the part I'm working on.
This ideal of a perfect mom. It's definitely hard to live up to. Is it the pressure we put on ourselves or does it come from society? I know I am far from perfect and doing it all is impossible. But I will continue my juggling routine and hopefully less things fall through.
I know what you mean about trying to do it all. That's why every so often I make time just for me! Just to relax, relate and release! Because after all we do not want to get burned out! I gave up a long time on being a perfect anything! I just do the best I can and hopefully it is well appreciated!
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